This is the third time in my life where I have risen above money (and then came tumbling back spending money like crazy). I don’t think that is going to happen to me this time because it is a whole new world out there. What I used to think was important before is NOT important to me anymore.
Of course money is important. If you’re lucky, however, you will come to a point in your life when you realize that you’ve purchased all that you will ever need in your lifetime. You’ve scaled back to just your necessities and enough money is passively flowing through that you don’t have to worry about paying your bills anymore. Yes. I’m at that junction.
Outside appearances just aren’t important anymore. Not to me and certainly not to anybody else. Nor does what you own, what you drive, how much money you make, where you live, how you life. Why? They’ve got more important things to think about than a comparison rate with you. People today have different fish to fry. They’re worried about staying alive, not catching a deadly virus, buying food, keeping a roof over their head, and paying a utility bill. You know? Sort of what real life survival is like.
I hadn’t realized how much our lives have changed over these last few months till I heard a ‘What Me Worry?’ influencer go off and admit to contracting a rare dose of reality. Yup! Does it every time. Once you become woke, there’s no going back.
It’s sort of like experiencing this Helen Keller moment:
Hubs and I scaled back our budget. We eliminated a few things off our bottom line. No pick up or more meals out. Only home cooking for 3 squares a day and a snack (I bake our own daily snacks). No vacations (all cancelled). One car vs two. No more satellite or cable TV. Only free will do now and there’s plenty of free wireless TV stuff . More DIY (now that we have the time). That includes home repair & upkeep, car repairs and cleaning projects. Hobbies changed. Lifestyles changed. Interests changed. Shopping has changed. Priorities have changed. More staying at home while making the home as comfortable as possible. No ones coming over anymore to judge, so we can relax more!
Hubby lost all of his work and had to file for social security earlier than we had planned. That meant a lifetime of a reduced income. No worries. We restructured our lives to equal our new income and the transition was easier than I thought. We had to seriously sit down and ask ourselves what was important to us. The pandemic helped us answer that question much more realistically. The stimulus check came in handy to pay off some long time debts and rightsize ourselves once again.
I spend my days looking for my birds. I’ve started attracting hummingbirds in addition to the wrens who come here each year to build their nest inside a very quaint bird house. I have my garden now to tend to. I’ve been enjoying watching everything grow. It’s been fascinating to learn new things about good garden dirt and how long it takes seeds to bloom and what each plant looks like when it does bloom. I’ve even learned a lot about fruit trees as I’ve saved the life of my own peach tree! I’m looking forward to spending a few days in the early fall canning as much as is possible. Again, another new adventure, interest and hobby.

And then, there’s that cooking and baking thing going on around here. Sometimes the meals are so good, there isn’t any time to go get my camera. The meal becomes an image etched onto my brain ready to be brought up as a memory at any time. Nope. Money isn’t the center of my universe anymore. There are so many other things to tend to that once I set the income to expense ratio to self-sufficency, I’m on the path of complete financial independence. And I’m not even a bazillionaire.
Letting go of “keeping up with the Joneses” was one of my most liberating moments. When I stopped leasing a fancy car & purchased something more practical & affordable. When I didn’t care who made my purse, shoes, clothes – liberating. I feel free now. It is less stressful and I feel at peace. Great post.
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Thanks Maggie. Enjoy!
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Enough is nice but when you reach the feeling of abundance it is even nicer. That is a good time to save some for the future. Sincerely Lara
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Hi Lara. How have you been?Were you rocked much by the stock market? I was thinking of you. We’re almost 95% back to where we started out, so that’s a very good thing. I’m so glad I didn’t panic.
We’re at the point now where we can finally save. We’re saving up for a newish car (that can both tow and look nice). We’re trading in our two cars but we’ll probably need more cash to make the deal. Have you seen the price of pick-up trucks lately? That’s what we are going to need. We still have our goal of RVing out west but we’re going to need a bigger rig to make it happen. Once and for all.
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thank you for sharing Cindi……….life is so much better when we don’t try to keep up with others……..love all the changes you have made. 🙂
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Thanks Wendi. We are living in different times now. Different priorities. Adapt or be passed over. Thank you for your comment.
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You are absolutely right!
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Okay some crazy money things That have happen to me.
1.My one money market account went from paying $70 to $7monthly. Bummer!
2. My travel credit card rewards pays three times more then a 30 year bond! And 265 times More then the money market!
3. Telling my current brokerage I was thinking of Switching my IRA back to my old brokerage for a $1200 bonus payable in nine months, I got A $1000 stay bonus added the very same day! No strings attached to maintain my relationship.
4.Go Curry Cracker just had a blog post on free coffee for life by Investing and using the passive income for free coffee. I prefer using this method for bigger ticket items (like a car, insurance, taxes) myself. My age gives me free coffee at Wendy’s and since Covid19 I got on their Wendy’s Mobil App and have gotten tons of free food and super discounts and reward back from my CC. Which on the app you don’t have to be a Senior to get.
5. April15 and June 15 estimated taxes aren’t due till July 15, so I get to make a little interest on the stimulus check before it goes back to the IRS.
6.I got a letter yesterday that the New Jersey Insurance Commissioner’s extended all life insurance policy Written in NJ grace period to pay to 90 days instead of thirty? Too bad I already sent it in since it was due on June 3rd.
7. Price comparison on Instacart from Aldi’s and the other stores in the area – even with the higher prices Instacart charges for Aldi’s, their Delivery fee and tip are still cheaper then buying at other stores in person!
8. Love my local Ace HardWare free delivery policy and being a rewards card holder, I get lots of coupons. $5 on $20, $10 on $50, $10 on $10 latest one. I got all my spring needs and they placed the 80-40 pound bags of topsoil right where I needed them. That in itself was golden.
9.My son’s favorite Thai restaurant doesn’t accept tips! Since they are only doing phone orders and you get the order from a table inside their door like Starbucks.
10. I also : Have no urge to go to any store or internet site to window shop or buy anything !
11. So my savings rate has jumped way up! 🍀🌷Lara
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